Affirmation has been used by successful people for
centuries. It has helped many ordinary people achieve
extraordinary results in their lives. It has turned many
failures into successes. It has made many miracles happen
in the history of human evolution. However, the majority of
people who use affirmation find that it doesn’t work. Why
is this the case? What are the elements that people have
missed when they use affirmation techniques? I constantly
ask myself these questions, and seek for the answers. The
result is, no one book gives the complete answer. Some tips
given in one book work for a specific situation, but not
for others. Other books give other tips that work for other
situations, but not for this. I have tested and filtered
out the ineffective ones, and left only what I call the
ultimate effective technique secrets.
The purpose of affirmation:
Before I give you the effective techniques, I must make you
understand the true purpose of affirmation. Simply stated,
the purpose of affirmation is to pass a command from the
conscious mind to the subconscious mind. The subconscious
mind has the ability, in anything it accepts as true, to do
whatever it takes to turn it into reality. The purpose of
an affirmation is to pass a message to the subconscious
mind, and to make it believe the message is true. So this
brings us to the first element of an effective affirmation.
1.The affirmation must be believable to the subconscious
mind
Most of the affirmations people use, fail at this first
stage. They tend to give an unrealistic message to the
subconscious mind, hoping for a positive response. If you
are financially broke, and you say to yourself “I earn
$100,000 per year”, is this believable to your mind? If
your body is totally out of shape, and you say to yourself
“I am very attractive”, is this believable to your mind? I
doubt it.
What if you are currently broke, and you want to make
$100,000 per year? What if you are out of shape, and you
want to make yourself attractive? I find the best and
easiest way is to use the word “I choose” in your
affirmation.
Instead of saying “I earn $100,000 per year.”
Say “I choose to earn $100,000 per year”
Instead of saying “I am very attractive”
Say “I choose to feel that people find me attractive”
Do you feel the difference?
2.The subconscious mind seeks for proof
There is a misconception that the affirmation must be
repeated thousands of times before it can be installed in
the subconscious mind. This is not necessarily true. You
can use the repetition method to embed your affirmation,
but there is an easier way. It is, at the time you find the
proof, state your affirmation. Many people stay in poverty
because they associate pain with money. Whenever they spend
their money, they think of their bills, loans etc. This
will automatically lead to ultimate pain. It is the feeling
you attach to money that makes you rich or poor.
How can we turn this to our advantage? Instead of feeling
pain when spending money, what if we associate pleasure
with it? Next time when you go out shopping, at the moment
you take out your money or credit card, say this
affirmation to yourself “I always have more than enough to
spend.”
See how you feel. This works because the subconscious mind
sees the proof. As long as you have some money left in your
pocket, this affirmation is always true, so the
subconscious mind will believe it.
How about if we combine the first and second methods
together and make an affirmation like this: “I choose to
feel that I always have more than enough to spend.” Say
this at the time you spend your money. See how you feel.
You don’t have to repeat it thousands of times, a few times
of real life proof will make your subconscious mind believe
it.
3.The affirmation must trigger feelings
A fact about the subconscious mind is that it does not
speak in words, you can only communicate with it through
feelings, and emotions. There are two methods that you can
use to trigger your feelings. The first method is to use
words that involve feelings. Words like “fun, enjoyable,
comfortable, delightful” will work effectively. The second
method is to use imagination. Visualize that the situation
stated in your affirmation has already come true. See
yourself in that situation and feel the feelings.
4.The affirmation must obey the 3 Ps factor.
The 3 Ps are Positive, Present Tense, and Personal.
Affirmations must be stated positively. Instead of saying
“I am not fat”, say “I choose to stay slim”. The reason for
this is that before the mind knows the meaning of, “I am
not fat”, it must think of what fat means first. So saying
that statement will inevitably lead to the feeling of being
fat.
Affirmations must be in the present tense. Many books
mention this. However, I only agree to some extent. If you
say “I have a luxury car”, your mind will not believe you.
The reason I include this here is that once it is combined
with the first technique, it will work perfectly. Now say
“I choose to have a luxury car”. Your mind will do its best
to bring it into reality.
Affirmations must be personal. Your subconscious mind only
works for you, not for others. If you say “Ann loves me”,
it will not be effective, because you have no control over
Ann. Now say “I choose to feel that Ann really loves me”.
This time you are in control, because you can control your
own feelings.
5.Personal development affirmations should be stated in the
comparative
“I am confident” may not be as effective as “I am becoming
more and more confident”.
An even better affirmation might be “I choose to feel more
and more confident”.
The reason for using the comparative, is because there is
no end to how much more confident you can become.
Otherwise, your mind may think you are already confident
enough, and it will not need to do any more work.
These 5 techniques are the most effective ones that I have
found from my research on affirmations. If you can use all
the 5 techniques, I guarantee your results will be amazing.
Even if you only use one or two of the techniques stated
here, you will find your affirmations will become far more
effective.
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